This post is part of our Grace for the Pregnant Mom Series. See all our posts here.
We had our first child at a birth center. It was a wonderful experience, and afterward I assumed I would have all my babies in the same manner. However, God moved us 1,500 miles across the country to a small town without a birth center nearby.
Before we conceived, my husband and I started thinking about possibly having a home birth. At the time, we were renting and agreed we weren’t comfortable having a home birth in a rental. We were completely content with the fact that we would most likely have our second child in a hospital.
But then God provided a home for us to buy (in the middle of the winter no less). We moved our belongings in negative thirty degree weather to a cozy home on a snow covered mountain.
During this same time frame, we met with the local midwife because we suspected infertility. We’d been trying to conceive for over a year and the test kept coming back negative. With her help, we conceived within a few weeks!
We didn’t plan to buy a house in the middle of winter, and we certainly weren’t expecting to actually get pregnant on the first try after our midwife started working with us, but this is exactly how it happened! Since we already had a relationship (an impressive one at that!) with a midwife, we asked her to take us on for a home birth. She readily agreed, and so our journey began!
7 Reasons Why I’m Planning a Home Birth
1. I like my space. I work hard to create a home that makes it impossible to not think about God. The walls of my home have been prayed over and carry the memories of my family. My home is where I love to be so home birth is very attractive to me because it means I’m, well … home. My home is comfortable and a reflection of who we are as a family. It’s my safe haven, and so much of birthing is relaxation.
2. I like my freedom. I want to be able to choose my labor position as well as how to ultimately deliver. I want the option for my husband to catch our baby and for him to be able to be by my side. I want to be able to move around and eat if my body needs food. I want to be free to work on bringing a new life into this world without the distractions and busyness of a hospital and all its personnel (and regulations).
3. I don’t like hospitals. I really don’t go there unless I have to (and I’m willing to go if I have to!). Hospitals are for sick people, broken arms, and where you go if your son has a seizure (yes, we went for that reason last year!). As I said before, so much of birth is about relaxation, and hospitals are not comforting to me. Some moms find comfort in the security of medically minded folks right at your fingertips. I do not, and neither does my husband.
4. I won’t cry during labor. The only time I cried during my first labor was when we had to transfer from home to the birth center. It was painful, downright brutal really. I cried all the way to the birth center. I am looking forward to not having to get in a car if I don’t have to.
5. I get to choose who walks in the door. I like my privacy. I don’t want a revolving door of people coming in and out of my room. I only want to see my husband, mother, son, and midwife during my labor and delivery. I also love that my son has the opportunity to be present. At nearly three years old, it will be a lot easier transition for him if he sees the baby come out (or at least be in the room) than for him or her to magically appear. We don’t plan on waking him up for the birth, but if he comes in, he’s welcome to be there. I like having the option.
6. I prefer my mama’s cooking. Since we made the switch to real, whole foods, I like having control over what I put in my body after birth. I need all the help in healing and nourishing I can get. Plus there is no better cook than my mama and she loves cooking for us!
7. It’s a natural decision for us. Since our first son was born in a birth center, opting to have a home birth instead of a hospital birth is a natural decision for us. We probably would have chosen the birth center again had we stayed in the same town, but the Lord brought us to a new place. Therefore, if I get the choice, I want to be at home away from medical interventions and free to explore another natural birth without distraction.
These are our reasons for planning a home birth. No, it’s not our first choice, but it’s a natural choice, a choice we are comfortable with and feel the peace of the Lord. We trust our midwife and even my own instincts to bring a new life into this world to raise for the glory of God.
I’m not opposed to transferring to the hospital, which is about five minutes away, if necessary. I’m not even opposed to medical intervention for the health and well being of baby and myself. This is not an “at all costs” plan. We are grateful for the opportunity and privilege to be able to birth in our own home, and pray daily for the Lord’s protection and sustaining grace as we near the birth of our baby.
I look forward to sharing God’s story for our new addition in just a few weeks!