The truth that changed my parenting attitude. I’ll give you a hint. I’m the problem.
Parenting. It humbles me. It stops me in my tracks. It brings me to my knees and to the end of myself.
Everyday I fail. I lose my temper. I parent in exasperated exhaustion, choosing the easiest solution rather than going to the Lord for renewed strength.
Last night, Sam did something he had never done before. Something wrong. Something that scared me because this path he is on leads straight to death.
And yet it is me to whom I turn my eyes.
I’ve been so preoccupied. I’ve been diligently making plans and running a business that I’ve let the daily teaching of God’s Word slide. I have neglected diligence as a parent. Forgive me, Lord.
I’m exhausted and everyday brings new attitudes and disrespectful tones. Words cut like knives. Rudeness. Critical spirits. These attitudes fly around and it is time to do something about it.
We need to establish some family rules.
We need a plan for character training.
But first I must deal with myself. My sin.
The Truth that Changed My Parenting Attitude
Too often I go to God’s word for instruction to fix whatever problem I’m encountering. The Bible is my lifeline of instruction, but more than that it records the greatest love story ever told.
“Have mercy on me, O God …” ~ Psalm 51:1-2
My sin must be dealt with. It had to be dealt with.
For God so loved the world that he gave his only son so that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. ~John 3:16
As I turned to God’s word with my guilt this morning, looking for answers to my problems and concerns for my son, I met my Savior afresh.
As I cried out to Him for help to guide my son in truth, I encountered mercy by form of conviction. I encountered the truth that changed my parenting attitude.
As a parent, I must first take the log out of my own eye before I can see clearly to address the speck in my child’s eye.
I am in this together with my children. We are all a far cry from the perfection and holiness that God requires. We all need Jesus – His life, death, and resurrection.
“Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.” ~Psalm 51:10
The first verse I ever memorized. The verse that erupts from my soul, convicting my heart, and turning my eyes to the only one who can cleanse me and make me clean.
Then, I will teach transgressors your ways, and sinners will return to you. ~Psalm 51:13
The key to it all. First me. Then them. First address my heart. Then teach my son’s heart.
How simple, but oh so profound. As I address sin in my son’s life, I have to be willing to address the sin first in my own life.
Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. ~Galatians 6:1-2
And remember, Mamas! Our role as a mother to our children is to teach them diligently. Only Jesus saves. Only Jesus transforms hearts. We’re called to obedience – obedience starts with us. The results are in His hands.
What do you think? Do you think this could transform your parenting?
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