Dark clouds hovered low in the air. A dense mist hung suspended in the atmosphere; fog blanketed the horizon.
The perfect backdrop for the dark mood settling deep in my heart.
I stood and looked out the window, simply willing myself to breathe. To move under the heavy burden of the sadness and frustration. I just needed a minute to think. To breathe. To settle.
The baby’s cries rose swiftly and wafted down the hall. I hung my head. Did he have to wake up now? I wasn’t ready to be mom yet this morning. I could barely keep my own emotions in check let alone be the shining example of goodness and light every mother is supposed to be. Slowly I trudged to his room and eased the door open. His cries ceased and a dimpled grin greeted me. Tears burned my eyes as the emotions brimmed just beneath the surface. We snuggled and kissed and headed for his milk.
Good morning, mommy! Two raspy voices sang out in unison.
How am I going to do this today? How am I going to make it to the end of this day surviving, let alone thriving, instructing, guiding, loving? I barely had the energy to make my own breakfast, let alone the emotional stamina to endure a day of why’s, why not’s, life lessons, sing alongs, and story books.
Well, you know what? I did survive that day. And so did my family. How did I do it? By placing one foot in front of the other. One step, one story, one diaper change at a time.
I stayed tethered to my trusty spiral, taking sips of that precious Water of Life throughout the day to soothe my weary soul.
I put music on. Sometimes it was slow and spiritual, full of the promises of a loving Father and praises from an adoring child of God. Sometimes it was fast and fierce, with a bass line that beat in tempo with my adrenaline-fueled heart when the weight of reality washed over me anew. There were dances in the kitchen and quiet moments snuggled on the couch.
I cried. When I got a few minutes to myself I would let the tears come and wash through some of the hurt and anger. The release helped and lifted the weight just enough to get through to the next thing.
I prayed. Even when knee deep in board books and homework checks, my heart was crying out to the Father for wisdom, strength, peace, joy.
I enjoyed my children. You’d be surprised at how much a simple game of pass the balloon can lift your spirits! Or how much a snuggle from a fresh-from-nap toddler can buoy a weary heart. I sat back and watched them play and laugh and create games only they could understand.
Dark times are going to come, my friend. And just as much as I wanted to hide away in my bed and sleep the hurt away, my family needed me. Life goes on, even when you’re hurting. Or frustrated. Or scared. Or stressed. But our kids need us. It’s by watching how we walk through the dark times in life that our wee ones learn how to survive them, and hopefully come out stronger on the other side.
That day was not the first dark valley I’ve walked through as a mother. And, as much as I’d like it to be, it surely won’t be the last. But when the next one comes I’m going to try to remember to read the Word, play music, cry, pray, and enjoy my children. And when your next valley comes, I hope and pray these little things will help you make it through to the bright day all the stronger.
How do you parent in the dark days?
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