Mommy and Daddy’s marriage consists of thousands of words a day. Last week, we began our discussion on what it means to use our words – a gift from God – wisely. We learned that talking too much, failing to listen with humility, demanding our way, and slander is sinful and must be put off.
The question is what do we put on in the place of these unwholesome words?
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Today, we want to take a look at three wholesome, God glorifying ways of speaking that will benefit our children for years to come.
1. We should use our words to magnify the Lord.
And Mary said, “My soul magnifies the Lord, and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior …” Luke 1: 46-47
Are you rejoicing in your Savior?
Are you considering the ways in which you have been forgiven?
Are you praising Him for His eternal blessing?
Speak words of praise and worship in conversation with your husband. Tell of God’s glorious majesty on your afternoon walk with your kids or in the carpool on the way to school.
Do you want your children to praise and magnify the name of Jesus Christ? Then, praise and magnify the name of Jesus Christ aloud to them.
Together with your husband, teach them that there is a God who is worthy of all of your praise!
2. We should use our words to give thanks to the Lord.
And coming up at that very hour [Anna] began to give thanks to God… Luke 2:38
As we expose our children to our great God, and begin to praise His name aloud with them, we can then teach them what it looks like to respond to His greatness by giving thanks to our Heavenly Father.
Jerry Bridges says in his book The Fruitful Life: The Overflow of God’s Love Through You:
So often we try to develop Christian character and conduct without taking the time to develop God-centered devotion (page 30).
Do you want your children to devote their lives to God? Then, teach them to give thanks for all He has done!
3. We should use our words to tell of the Lord.
And coming up at that very hour [Anna] began to give thanks to God and to speak of him to all who were waiting for the redemption of Jerusalem. Luke 2:28
The truth is that we are deserving of the wrath of God. We are deserving of death. We were once separated from Christ, alienated from God and had no hope. But now, through the blood of Jesus, we are brought near, and we have been reconciled to God. We have peace with God because of Jesus’ sacrifice. We should be burning in hell, but alas, we are not (Rf. Ephesians 2:11-22)!
Our children must know this. They must know their state of destitution. To shelter them from this reality only brings about harm. For it is only when we understand our true state that we can truly worship and praise God for His mercy and grace.
To quote Jerry Bridges again,
The fear of God should provide a primary motivation for, as well as result in, obedience to Him. If we truly reverence God, we will obey Him, because every act of disobedience is an affront to His dignity and majesty (page 37).
Do you want your children to devote their lives to God? Then, together with your husband, teach them that they are a sinner in need of grace – grace that is free and available to them.
Our words are borrowed words. They are given to us by God to glorify Him. As Mommy and Daddy, we teach our children wise use of words. What better way to use our words than through worship, gratitude, and gospel proclamation?
Let us keep our hearts with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life (Proverbs 4:23). Like you, I long to give life to my children, and like you, I cannot do it alone. I need God’s mercy and grace to use my words to promote His agenda and not my own.
Let me use the words of Sally Clarkson in her book, The Mission of Motherhood: Touching Your Child’s Heart for Eternity, to encourage you today:
Any parent in any station of life has the ability to reach his or her child’s heart for Christ and his purposes. All that God requires from any of us is a desire to serve him and a trust that he can make up the difference for the things we lack. The Lord would have us know that he is the one ultimately in charge of our children. He will use our willingness and our efforts, then fill in the gaps of our inadequacies, to prepare their hearts for what he has in mind (page 83-84).
Additionally, I could not recommend more reading, One Habit That Radically Changes a Family by Ann Voskamp. If you desire to grow in magnifying the Lord, giving thanks to the Lord, and sharing the gospel of Grace with your children, then this is a wonderful read. It also contains many helpful articles for further study and ideas.
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What about you? What is one way you can begin to incorporate wholesome speech into your marriage?
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