Halloween is just around the corner, and this means your Facebook feed is about to light up with “discussions” about whether or not Christians should participate in Halloween or not.
In anything where the Bible isn’t totally black and white, there will be discussions, divisions, and controversy.
Heck, there’s discussion, division, and controversy in areas the Bible is actually pretty clear…
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how we communicate our beliefs with others.
Both the beliefs that are central to the gospel message and those that we should classify as Christian liberties.
What I mean is that there are some things that are just non-negotiable when it comes to the Bible. Actually, a lot of it probably is, but there are areas that for one it will be sin and another it will not be.
This is hard and frustrating and why it couldn’t just be clear cut for everyone, I don’t know. But that’s the way God chose to do it. And it’s our job to know the difference between the two.
It’s our job to know where we need to be firm in our stance, and where we need to be tender and open to the diversity within the body of Christ.
As women we were made to give life, but how we do that will be unique to each and every one of us.
We have the same mission (Matthew 28:19-20), but we all have different gifts (Romans 12:6), and it’s important that we seek God for His will for our part in the mission of carrying the gospel to the nations.
I want you to be intentional and to know why you do what you do.
Even more than knowing why…
I want you to be able to communicate your reasons to others in a spirit of love.
“Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.” ~Ephesians 4:15-16 (my emphasis added)
As women we were made to give life.
We were made to give life with our words, actions, and attitudes for the purpose of building up the body of Christ…
For the purpose of drawing others to Jesus…
For the purpose of offering a glimpse of the goodness of God…
Are you building up the body of Christ with your words, actions, and attitudes with your discussions about Halloween?
We all have opinions that we share over the water cooler or in the nursing moms room at church. Facebook rants statuses are included here.
Halloween happens to be highly controversial and at the same time, it is an opportunity.
It is an opportunity to give life no matter what your stance on Halloween happens to be.
To do this, you need to slow down and take time to think about why you believe what you believe AND how you can communicate this belief in a way that builds up the body of Christ, draws people to Him, and brings glory to Him alone.
I’m right there with the next woman who likes to “tell it like it is.” I’m not afraid to speak the truth, but I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t matter how bold you are, it’s wrong if you communicate in arrogance and pride.
And sometimes, we do this without even realizing it.
Early in my marriage, my husband and I hit conflict that we couldn’t resolve. We called another couple to our home and asked them to help us.
As our friends listened, the man looked at me and said, “Leigh Ann, everything you’re telling Mark is exactly what he needs to hear. But sister, your tone sucks.”
That was hard to hear, but it was exactly what I needed to hear.
And it changed the course of my marriage in a twinkling of an eye.
Wisdom in the Bible is usually spoken of in the female sense. I believe as women, God has gifted us with a bent toward wisdom. Many women I know can discern and assess a situation quickly and even correctly.
But I’m here to tell you that no matter how wise you are, if your tone sucks, no one will listen.
We are called to communicate with others in a spirit of love, gentleness, and respect.
Sure it takes a little more time to communicate this way, and sometimes a frank word is needed.
But still…a frank word can be expressed with love, gentleness, and respect.
Whatever your stance on Halloween, it is my prayer that you would be a woman who chooses to communicate in a spirit of love, gentleness, and respect.
That you would be a woman willing to go the extra mile with those who may disagree with your stance as you seek to build up the body of Christ.
Our world is perishing, the night is getting darker, and our witness must get better!
We must stop sharing our opinions to be right, or to be heard, and start sharing our opinions in the context of relationship for the glory of God and the building up of the body of Christ.
“Who is wise and understanding among you? By his good conduct let him show his works in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” ~James 3:13-18 (my emphasis added)
Perhaps you’re still on the fence about Halloween. Perhaps you have no idea why you’ve chosen to participate or not. Perhaps you need to simply spend some time contemplating your defense and lay before the Lord your heart for molding.
Halloween is a great opportunity to be a light in the dark no matter how you choose to participate.
I want you to be fully convinced in your own mind that your family’s approach to this day is biblical, thought through, and done in honor of the Lord.
And I want you to have a gracious, loving answer prepared for when the topic comes up in your circles.
Therefore, I created a short scripture study for you to print off and use during your Bible study time.
It is my prayer that each of us will consider how we can be salt and light this Halloween. How we can be a city on a hill in grace and truth.
Regardless of what you choose this Halloween, remember … you were made to give life.
How can you give life through your words, actions, and attitudes in the coming weeks?
Until next time, go be intentional, rely on grace, and become the woman of God you were created to be.
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