Sometimes humility is the pathway to relief.
After weeks of hard parenting moments, many, many tears, and very little margin to think adult thoughts, relief finally came.
A friend gave me two options: take my kids for the afternoon or bring my family dinner that night.
A mother-in-love showed up with an knowing heart, and said, “Just go. Nap, rest, read, pray. Just go. I have your children.”
A nearly six year old boy said, “Mommy, I will watch Sissy so you can take a little rest or maybe just get in some Bible reading time.”
A husband took my grocery list, and said, “I will take care of it. All of it. I got this.” Then later he said, “I need you to nurse her but that’s it. I got this. You go to bed.” And he took my monitor with him and kept it on his side all night.
These acts of service and love came after I shared, “I’m weary. I’m so weary. I need prayer.”
And they prayed.
And you prayed, sweet readers, those of you who read my emails. You prayed for rest and for relief. You prayed for space and time. You prayed for Jesus to make Himself known in His great love for me. I know this because you hit reply on my email and you told me.
I’m completely and utterly a wreck most days. Anything good that comes from me is nothing but the grace of a good and loving Father. I’m impatient with my kids. I’m snatchy with my time. In my weariness, I’m distant from my husband.
I am a broken Christian.
I’ve recently been reading Brokenness: The Heart God Revives by Nancy Leigh DeMoss (now Wolgemuth).
The book is filled with biblical insights into the type of heart that God revives and at the forefront is a broken and contrite heart. I particularly liked a Martin Luther quote she shared midway through the book. It’s been running on repeat through my head:
“God creates out of nothing. Therefore until a man is nothing, God can make nothing out of him.”
Oh for grace to understand this more deeply and the courage to live as nothing so that He can make me something for His glory.
My life verse is Psalm 51:10:
“Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.”
I cannot be good on my own.
Goodness is a fruit of the spirit. Good is something I’m not but something I desperately want to be.
I want to be a good Christian, walking in love with all people, sharing the good news of the gospel with all I meet, and especially working to testify to the goodness of God in all that I do.
I want to be a good wife and mom, ever pointing my family to Jesus, daily leading them onward in their pursuit of what is pure and holy. I want to lean in when it’s hard and pull them closer when it’s harder. I want to serve them as though I am serving Jesus Himself.
But I am not good enough.
In myself, I am weak. In myself I am insufficient.
The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.
That is why my battle is won only on my knees.
As God brings to light what I’ve begun to refer to as the “piddly sins,” I’m becoming more aware of my depravity than ever. I’ve long ceased the “gross sins” that enslaved me for years, and now God is doing the real work of sanctification. The nitty gritty. The stuff that I like to gloss over, or the sins that I can easily hide because so many of them take place in my thoughts and in my heart. On the outside I appear clean but on the inside I am but filth and soot.
I sent a text to my husband this week that said:
“I want so desperately to see change in my life. I want so desperately to have victory over this besetting sin. But it won’t be me. All I can do is repent over and over again. It will have to be God’s power that changes this heart of stone. I am evil and incapable of this change.”
When sin is so rooted, it can take days, months, maybe even years before victory can truly be claimed. There is grace for the ugly battle.
Is this what Paul meant when he asked God three times to deliver him and God said, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness”? Was it simply a marker in the sand to remind Paul that he was a broken Christian?
- Not perfect but washed clean by the blood of the lamb.
- Not strong but weak, empowered by another.
- Incapable of good but made capable by the risen Lord.
Is this what that scripture has meant all these years? Maybe. (See 2 Corinthians 12:7-10)
Broken. Contrite. Humble. These are the character traits of the heart God desires. This is the heart God can use. I am nothing and for this I am grateful.
“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” ~Matthew 11:28-30
Yoke translated in the Greek simply means “way.” Take my way upon you. The way of Jesus, following Jesus, this is what He promises to give us rest in – His way. The pathway is wrought with hardships and weary moments but as you submit to His way, He gives rest.
His way is humility. His way is admitting you are weak. His way is telling a friend you are weary today. His way is asking your mother in love to pick up the sandwich meat because you simply can’t do it for yourself. His way is admitting your weakness and failings to your husband. And His way is telling your friends through email that you are bitter and anxious about many things.
Sometimes relief comes through humility because admitting to trusted friends and family members that I needed prayers set a domino effect in place I didn’t expect. It gave room for God’s people, the church, to be His hands and feet. The acts of service they bestowed upon me in my time of need wasn’t easy for any of them.
My friend had a full day from start to finish but she said, “Yes” to the Lord’s prompting to cook a meal for my family and deliver it.
My mother-in-love had a full day of caring for her elderly parents and more, but she said, “Yes” to the Lord’s prompting to make my small grocery run, and then give me space to fill however I truly needed to fill it.
My husband worked all day and all week and exhausted and weary himself he said, “Yes Lord,” and made our bulk grocery run on a Friday night at the height of traffic.
I rested for the first time in many weeks. Today I think clearly for the first time.
God’s way can bring relief when we share our weaknesses and struggles with others. God can bring rest to your soul and body when you bring Him a broken and contrite heart.
It is His way that I want because His way leads to righteousness and a good that surpasses all understanding.
- Where in your life are you making less of sin than God does? How is God’s perspective on sin different from yours?
- Read Psalm 32 and ask the Lord to instruct you and teach you in the way you should go.
- Pray for courage to become nothing so that He can have His way in your life.
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