Be a Helper, Not a Manipulator

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Too often my motives in bringing ideas to my husband haven't been pure. Manipulation comes easily to me. My flesh errs on the side of doing what it takes to get what I want. I'm tenacious and meticulous in playing my cards right, and this is bad. This is sin. This is a temptation that I am constantly on guard against. By God's grace, I'm aware of my temptation to manipulate and can go to Continue Reading

Gentle Guidance – A Helper Fit for Him

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By contributing writer, Mark It's hard to know where to start when it comes to this topic, as there is such a large continuum of stances on the roles of men and women in marriage, and even amongst the readers of this post there will be people all over the board. No matter where you stand, I believe for many of you, knowing how to bring things like the desire for family worship to a husband Continue Reading

The Character of a Christian Man Matters

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By contributing writer, Mark This one's for the men. Leigh Ann wrote to the women yesterday. While I realize that I am writing this on a blog pretty much exclusively for women, I am writing this post in the hopes that it will be shared with the men in your life. Ladies, this isn't going to put anyone straight or fix those pesky little habits of your men, but it will bring encouragement to Continue Reading

Living the Gospel at Home Starts with Your Marriage

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The first five years of our marriage revolved around getting my husband to see things my way, wondering why his Bible never cracked open in the wee hours of the morning like mine always did, helping him see all the areas he failed, and fighting the urge to just take over the staff of the family. Of course, there were times of encouragement, growth, and listening on my part, but the gentle Continue Reading

How to Apply the Gospel When Grief Strikes

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Sometimes life is hard. Sometimes life turns in a direction we never imagined. Where do we go when this happens? Who do we turn to? How do we traverse the heavy burdens of grief? A few weeks ago, Ami asked if she could share some of her story with the Intentional By Grace community. After listening to her heart, and reading her blog, I quickly said, "Yes!" I have never walked through tragedy Continue Reading

7 Things I Wish I Had Done Before I Got Married

7 things I wish I had done before I got married.

Do you ever wish you could go back to a time? Do you ever wish you could sit down and have a chat with your 13 year old self, 21 year old self, or you fill in the blank? I know I do. I would do a lot of things differently. I wasn't saved until age 24 (you can read my testimony here), and so many of my regrets stem from a life lived for self-glory instead of God's glory. Sometimes, I wish Continue Reading

Be Intentional in Your Marriage with this Free Resource!

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Anyone married for a day has learned that marriage takes work - a lot of work. When life gets busy, it's easy to let your marriage fall by the way side. You start existing alongside one another instead of enjoying one another. After nearly six years of marriage, I can confidently say I love being married more today than I did when I said, "I do." My husband is my best friend, and we love being Continue Reading

Why My Husband and I Share a Facebook Account

Why My Husband and I Share a Facebook Account

My husband and I share a Facebook account. We haven't always shared a Facebook account, of course. For the first five years of our marriage, we held separate accounts. When we first made the switch, it was really weird, but now we can't imagine having it any other way. Some people are totally annoyed by our decision to share an account, others could care less, but most just don't Continue Reading

10 Date Night Ideas for Parents of Small Children

10 date night ideas for parents of small children

Raise your hand if you have a regular date night with your spouse. If you’re like me, you want to raise your hand, but you’ve found yourself in a dating rut since children started coming onto the scene. Last year, I surveyed several married women with a combined 200 years of marriage under their belts. Do you want to know their number one piece of advice? Keep date nights a priority in your Continue Reading

Forever By Grace: 21-Day Prayer Challenge for Your Marriage

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Are you faithful to pray daily for your marriage? Intentional, scripture-led prayer does not come easily to me. But I believe, the habit at the heart of every marriage is prayer. Maybe you struggle to pray faithfully for your marriage, or maybe you are faithful to pray, but want to grow in praying scripture-based prayers for your marriage. Either way, I would love for you to join me in a Continue Reading