When you see a few pennies it may seem as though they aren’t worth much.
You are right. On his own, the lonesome penny doesn’t seem to matter.
But you put a few of them together and, voila, you have something of value! This means that each penny is worth something. If we were all to throw away every single penny we ever earned we wouldn’t have any money. So I would have to say they are in fact worth… everything!
A relationship is like a jug of pennies. Each thing you say or do may seem somewhat insignificant on its own; however, these little things can add up and really set the tone for your marriage. One “little” thing can ruin your day. One “little” thing can add up with other “little” things and make it clear to you that you are so loved by your spouse.
Here are 5 “little” things you can do each and everyday to make a big difference in your marriage and keep it on track:
1. Stop what you are doing!
Right this second. When your spouse comes home from work at the end of the day (or when you first walk through the door) stop what you are doing. Set your things down. Focus your attention on what truly matters! When your loved one gets your undivided attention it will make them feel loved, cherished and important. If they were in a grumpy mood this may even turn their whole day around!
2. Make eye contact!
As with number one, when you truly engage you are going to look them square in the eyes. This means you aren’t looking at your computer screen out of the corner of your eyes. You aren’t zoning out while plotting what you are going to say next. You are 100% engaged and in touch with what they are saying to you... and they will notice.
3. Kiss them hello and goodbye every. single. time!
That’s right. Every. Single. Time. If you are busy, flustered, rushed, distracted, it can be easy to zip out the door and get on with your day. Take a second (literally, a second) and give your spouse a kiss. For that brief moment the whole world can stop and you can focus on your love for each other! It is a simple thing that Anthony and I have always done. It also shows our kids how much Mommy and Daddy love each other!
4. Serve the other first!
Giving to your spouse before you take for yourself is such a great way to show you aren’t self-focused. Putting your spouse first is the easiest way to show you are happy to make a sacrifice for them. What a great way to show your love! My favorite way to act this out is with coffee. Anthony and I always make the other person’s coffee before making our own. It is a little thing that always makes me smile!
5. “Always kiss me goodnight!”
In my family we always speak of “having a happy heart.” This means making sure you are doing things with a smile on your face. A positive attitude. It means forgiving quickly and not allowing yourself to stay angry. It is very important to make sure you don’t hold onto your anger and don’t let a fight get the best of you in your marriage. An easy way to do this is to make sure you always go to bed with a happy heart. What is a “little thing” you can do to accomplish this? “Always kiss me goodnight!”
What is a “little thing” you do to keep your marriage on track and let your spouse know just how much you love them?
This post is linked to Wifey Wednesday and Women Living Well.
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Thanks Nikki! This post is just what I needed to read!! With a greater amount of stress in our lives at this time in our lives our marriage could use some strengthening. I was just wondering what I could do to spice it up and make things easier when I found thus in my inbox! Little things add up!! I’ll remember that! I didn’t think of it that way…. One little thing we like to do is hand each other a towel when we notice our partner’s shower is being turned off as we are getting ready for bed together. This could also be in the morning, if that is when you spend time together in the bathroom. Thanks again for sharing this!!
So happy this landed in your inbox at JUST the right time! Handing the towel is a great way to show your hubby you are thinking of him!
Love these tips Nikki!! I love tip #1 about making eye contact and being alert and focused when hubby walks in the door. I try to do this but sometimes I’m in the middle of working on something and it doesn’t happen. Thanks for the reminder
And we always kiss goodnight! We do our prayers together and then kiss goodnight 
Jami that is so sweet that you pray together before bed!
We sometimes write each other messages on the bathroom mirror in the morning. It wipes right off with just a towel and Windex. It always makes him smile when he sees my message written just for him and I like to find my messages too. We sometimes write on the shower wall too. Don’t use a marker for that though–I use an eyeliner pencil or kids soap crayons.
I love it! I’ve been meaning to pick up soap crayons, but I keep forgetting. I.really.need.to.do.this. Thanks for the reminder!
This is great advice! I need to work on the first one – I always greet him, but rarely stop what I’m doing. Gotta work on that!
I like to leave messages on the bathroom mirror in dry erase marker for my husband.
Every day one of us will send a text to the other asking about their day. We will also send a little flirt message too..it’s so much fun…