When you see a few pennies it may seem as though they aren’t worth much.
You are right. On his own, the lonesome penny doesn’t seem to matter.
But you put a few of them together and, voila, you have something of value! This means that each penny is worth something. If we were all to throw away every single penny we ever earned we wouldn’t have any money. So I would have to say they are in fact worth… everything!
A relationship is like a jug of pennies. Each thing you say or do may seem somewhat insignificant on its own; however, these little things can add up and really set the tone for your marriage. One “little” thing can ruin your day. One “little” thing can add up with other “little” things and make it clear to you that you are so loved by your spouse.
Here are 5 “little” things you can do each and everyday to make a big difference in your marriage and keep it on track:
1. Stop what you are doing!
Right this second. When your spouse comes home from work at the end of the day (or when you first walk through the door) stop what you are doing. Set your things down. Focus your attention on what truly matters! When your loved one gets your undivided attention it will make them feel loved, cherished and important. If they were in a grumpy mood this may even turn their whole day around!
2. Make eye contact!
As with number one, when you truly engage you are going to look them square in the eyes. This means you aren’t looking at your computer screen out of the corner of your eyes. You aren’t zoning out while plotting what you are going to say next. You are 100% engaged and in touch with what they are saying to you... and they will notice.
3. Kiss them hello and goodbye every. single. time!
That’s right. Every. Single. Time. If you are busy, flustered, rushed, distracted, it can be easy to zip out the door and get on with your day. Take a second (literally, a second) and give your spouse a kiss. For that brief moment the whole world can stop and you can focus on your love for each other! It is a simple thing that Anthony and I have always done. It also shows our kids how much Mommy and Daddy love each other!
4. Serve the other first!
Giving to your spouse before you take for yourself is such a great way to show you aren’t self-focused. Putting your spouse first is the easiest way to show you are happy to make a sacrifice for them. What a great way to show your love! My favorite way to act this out is with coffee. Anthony and I always make the other person’s coffee before making our own. It is a little thing that always makes me smile!
5. “Always kiss me goodnight!”
In my family we always speak of “having a happy heart.” This means making sure you are doing things with a smile on your face. A positive attitude. It means forgiving quickly and not allowing yourself to stay angry. It is very important to make sure you don’t hold onto your anger and don’t let a fight get the best of you in your marriage. An easy way to do this is to make sure you always go to bed with a happy heart. What is a “little thing” you can do to accomplish this? “Always kiss me goodnight!”